Suggested Reading


Melody Beattie wrote the landmark book on codependency. It still holds up well today:

Codependent No More, published by Harper & Row.

Her more recent book is:

The New Codependency, published by Simon & Schuster.

Another expert on relationships is Harriet Lerner, who authored two books which are highly readable:

The Dance of Intimacy, published by Harper & Row, and
The Dance of Anger, published by Harper Collins.

One more well-regarded book on codependency:

Pia Mellody’s Facing Codependency, published by Harper & Row.

The accompanying workbook, by Melody and Andrea Wells Miller:

Breaking Free, published by HarperSanFrancisco.


One of the best books for dealing with stress by living well in the present. Highly regarded by many in psychology, health, and stress management:

Jon Kabat-Zinn’s Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness, by Delta Trade Paperbacks.

The earliest and still well regarded book for women who have been abused. Also comes in workbook form:

The Courage to Heal, by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, published by Harper & Row.

For people wanting to learn more about classic EMDR, read the book by the clinical psychologist who founded Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR):

Francine Shapiro, Ph.D. and Margot Silk Forrest’s, EMDR -Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, published by Harper Collins.

Several other good books on EMDR were written by a very talented and highly skilled clinical psychologist who is an EMDR trainer. I did my original training with her as well as attending one of her consultation groups for over a year. Dr. Laurel Parnell’s books include:

Transforming Trauma: EMDR, published by WW Norton, and
Tapping In, published by Sounds True.


Widely circulated work on death and grief was done by the expert Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. In her most renowned work, she illustrated the stages of grief which are generally accepted by professionals and the general public:

On Death and Dying, published Simon & Schuster.

Another person who has made immense contributions to the field of grieving is Stephen Levine. He and his wife once did remarkable workshops on coping with illness and death. Among the various books he has written are :

Who Dies?
Healing into Life and Death.
Both are published by Anchor Books of Doubleday.

Another local professional who wrote a valuable book on living with invisible disabilities is Stacy Taylor, L.C.S.W., of the East Bay, with Robert Epstein, Ph.D.:

Living Well with a Hidden Disability, New Harbinger Publications.

For individuals wondering what steps to take next in your life, try reading a gem by Barbara Sher with Annie Gottlieb. It has lots of practical exercises and inspiring stories:

Wishcraft, How to Get What You Really Want, published by Ballantine Books.

Another classic, straightforward, and locally written book to clarify your skills and career strengths is:

What Color is Your Parachute? 2018: A Practical Manual for Job Hunters and Career Changers, by Richard Nelson Bolles, published by Ten Speed Press in Berkeley.

There are obviously many other publications which haveĀ been published on these topics. If you have one to recommend, please let me know. I’d love to hear which ones have really helped you .