You are the person who always handles the family problems. You try to keep peace, because you don’t want others to be upset. In your mind, there must be some way to communicate more clearly so you will feel heard. Your children are not doing well in school and disobeying the rules at home. Perhaps your partner has been working late hours, you feel lonely and want to talk about it with him or her. Once, you felt happy with your partner, and now the relationship is not working.
Someone may have a drinking problem or other illness in your home, and you want to know how to stop it from affecting everyone else. A significant relationship recently ended and you may wonder what’s wrong with you.
You may be feeling anxious about a job, family, or health situation. Perhaps you are not sleeping well, and obsessing endlessly over how to solve the problem. From all this worry, you probably feel overtired and cannot concentrate on your usual tasks. Your stomach may feel tied up in knots and you may even be edgy and irritable about things you usually handle just fine. Your appetite could have increased or you may not want to eat much at all. You might feel panicky about your situation and unsure how to make the intense feelings and body sensations go away.
Or, you could feel ongoing distress about a traumatic event. You don’t want to feel the upsetting feelings and recall the bad memories of what happened. Your sleep is poor, perhaps, with nightmares or flashbacks of the event, and you are easily frustrated. You may not want to be around other people and may be constantly on guard. These descriptions are two forms of anxiety: stress-related and trauma-related.
You may have lost a beloved family member and feel life is too hard to bear. You have not lived alone for a long time and do not know how to handle it.
You may have been diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness. You are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted from the new regimen or treatment. You are wondering how to go on.
You are in your midlife years and want to make some changes. You want to review your relationship, your emphasis on work or family, and decide what is next. Perhaps your last child has gone to college and this leaves a huge hole in who you feel you are. You may be unhappy in your career and want to do something which has deeper meaning in your life.